Polina A. (ILI) - Characteristics of People

A child like this needs to be told that people are different from birth. It is very important for them to know their innate characteristics. Otherwise, the child will notice that others behave differently and think something is wrong with them; they will start trying to "rebuild" themselves and live in a space that isn't theirs: "I'll go there; he's 'correct' there." Ultimately, they will end up in the wrong place.

Before, I used to want to socialize a lot, I wanted to be an extrovert, but now I realize that’s not for me. I don’t have that kind of energy; if I have to force something out of myself, life will be hard. You have to tell a child about the strengths and weaknesses of their psyche.

In people, I notice flaws first, but I don't like to point them out; I might not even have the courage to hint at them. I try to soften my own impression and find more positive things in the person. But if it’s difficult, it affects my mood; sometimes it’s irritating, I don’t want to talk to that person, and I start answering sharply or demonstrating indifference.

I don’t like it when people only talk about themselves. When they are too "star-struck" with themselves, it’s irritating, and I try not to associate with them. I'm also not interested in those who have nothing but money on their minds; I walk away from them too. I avoid petty tyrants who constantly talk nonsense, say stupid things, or might insult and be rude to someone without even noticing it. I don’t like hypocritical people who say one thing and do another, who can mislead you, or who promise and don't deliver. I don't like people who talk trash behind your back—I always find out somehow anyway. I try to find the "pluses" in such a person, but I won't socialize with them.