Audio Transcript (for Inert vs. Contact Functions Analysis)

“Hi, so a Socionics story suddenly happened to me, even though, as they say, there were no signs of it coming. Today, Vika and I went for a ‘friendly’ walk, like, and you know, we had such a good time hanging out. It was just like before, back when we were just friends, before we ever had a relationship. Or like at the very beginning of the relationship, when we had a great time: walking, having fun, joking around, discussing everything happening around us.

Well, we walked for a long time, all day. And by evening, I got tired for some reason—my shoulders started aching, I was emotionally drained, and I just got overwhelmed. In that moment, I realized it felt like I shouldn't have gone to this meeting because it sucked all the energy out of me. I mean, not Vika herself. The meeting sucked the energy out of me.

And I thought: ‘I don’t know, I shouldn't even see her at all if I react to her like this.’ But... well, I got home, and you know, I tried to deal with it somehow. But, fuck it, I recorded her a very angry voice message.

The phrasing was very typical for me, too: ‘I feel like I hate myself and her for the fact that she still triggers all these intense emotions in me. I’m still blown away by her smile, by the way we are together, and I can’t resist it. Life is a constant struggle and resistance, and you only prove your existence by resisting your environment. But she is always stronger than me, and there’s nothing I can do about it. I’ve simply shattered against her and I don’t know how to pick up the pieces of my life now.’

That’s some fucking Extraverted Sensing right there.

Anyway, you know, it all started with that pretty depressing message. But this time, unlike all the previous times, we actually managed to talk. We managed to talk for a really long time via voice messages.

Well, mostly I was the one talking, because I’m the one who ruminates the most here. I’m the one who needs to flex about how smart I am, you know.

And you know what I realized? That even here, Socionics explains everything. That sneaky bastard.

It turns out our difference in Extraverted Logic and Introverted Logic values surfaced just like that. Do you know why I was so messed up? Why I couldn't find peace for weeks? Why I couldn't forgive her? Because she chose practical considerations. Because her argument was: ‘We tried, and it didn’t work.’ That’s what was eating at me.

But I am a man of principle. Just like Dima, by the way. A man of principle, yeah, from the First Quadra. He gets something into his head and he just pushes forward according to his theory. And I’m a man of principle in that sense, in Introverted Logic.

I’ve said it myself a hundred times, but I didn’t realize it was related to Introverted Logic. When I talked about it back then, in the relationship—well, when I talked to her, or discussed how I felt with other people—I’d say: ‘I entered this relationship, and I’m seeing it through. Yes, it’s not always easy, but I’m thinking about whether we can make it better or not—either way, I’m moving forward.’

That’s exactly what a principle is: you chose something, and you keep going. But for her, practical experience is more important. That’s how it turns out.

Anyway, we had a very substantial talk. And besides that topic, we also discussed what we had between us. Despite the fact that we had a great atmosphere, energy, a common drive, a vibe—despite all that, we had nothing to talk about.

And it wasn’t just me who realized it; she understood it perfectly too. Our sets of conversational topics are different; we need different people for that. While everything was fine in the relationship, it was somehow compensated for, but then it surfaced and played a decisive role. We couldn't hold the relationship together.

And these differences in Extraverted and Introverted Logic values destroyed us. Our relationship—that’s it. Because she needs specific topics and a meaning of life, specific people who have gone through specific practical experiences. That’s what matters to her: that a person has lived through a certain experience and understands her in that regard.

It seems like such a clear, crisp, Extreverted Logic phrasing. And sure, probably everyone values it when another person understands them. But people conceptualize it differently.

For me, for example, it means something completely different. For me, it means: if a person understands me, if he’s on my wavelength, it means we are fundamentally built the same way. Like, I don’t know, we live by the same worldview, the same principle. That, as it turns out, is Introverted Logic. There you go.

Anyway, I don’t know. I feel like over this one evening, not only did I have a very substantial discussion with her about our relationship and we were able to talk so well, but I also understood a ton of new things about Socionics. That’s the story.”