Anna M. (IEE) about the variety of options for communication and flirting

I will never go to a party with a boyfriend, with a girlfriend, with a friend — that would mean I didn’t come alone. And if you come alone, you can meet everyone; you make tons of contacts and get so much information. I catch people’s eyes, let them understand that I’m open to meeting someone, and then — it’s up to them. And I can see whether someone will approach or just walk past, whether he’ll come up and start getting to know me, or ask someone about me. I meet women easily and naturally — you don’t even notice it yourself, and suddenly you’re already talking, already acquainted...

I absolutely love when you ride the escalator in the metro toward the oncoming flow of people: you have the chance to simply meet eyes and understand something about a person — their reaction to you, whether you caught their interest or not; you can sense their emotional state; you can understand their social status, where they’re going, and with what feelings. Three seconds are enough while you pass each other — no obligations, no need for conversation. He doesn’t invent anything in his head, and neither do you. And you keep going, encounter after encounter. It’s like a conveyor belt: someone just glances at you sharply, someone smiles, someone blows you a kiss… That’s also a kind of communication, and honestly, you don’t need more than that. This escalator situation suits me completely. I feel like life is the same — people just pass by, so keep moving. I keep a person near me on a long leash so I can pull if needed. You gave me your attention — now flow on past.

<...> I have plenty of male acquaintances I can call up and meet with — really quite a lot. In every social circle I’m in, there’s at least one such man. For example, in the circle of writers (there are many writers there), at the university — this one here, that one there, another one somewhere else. The problem is that very often men get the wrong idea: you bat your eyelashes a bit, flirt a little, and their thoughts already start going in a different direction. It’s no trouble for me to pull any of them in… There are about twenty such men.