Elena L. (EII) - Importance of helping a child understand conflicts and explain that there are no good or bad people.

If I had problems at school, I always wanted to go to my mother and discuss them with her. I would open the door and, right from the threshold, say: “Mom, today this and this and this happened…” Parents absolutely must listen and say a supportive word.

It’s important to analyze the situation from the right angle. The most important thing is not to scold the person who did something bad, but to help the child sort things out and understand: if you’ve found yourself in such a situation, you need to take it philosophically—there are always two sides in any conflict, and you are also partly responsible.

You shouldn’t blame everyone else; you need to help the child understand themselves. There are no good or bad people, people are simply different. A child must be taught that no one should be blamed; they need to learn to take responsibility for the events that happen in their life. A relationship with a child should be built on trust.