'Romance Style' Small Group

The label 'Romance Style' is a bit limiting. This category actually describes a broader life strategy, of which romantic relationships are just one part.

The "Romance Style" small group focuses on the perception of care. It describes how different personality types understand care and how they express it in relationships.

Aggressors/Controllers: They seek to control situations and take initiative, not necessarily through aggression.
Victims/Provocateurs: They are not someone who submits, but someone who creates conditions where the Controller feels a natural desire to take the lead.
Caregivers/The Comforting: They create coziness, comfort, and physical well-being.
Infantiles/The Playful: This does not imply a weak, helpless person unable to care for themselves. Playfulness here is about freedom and the pursuit of the new. They bring variety, lightness, and experimentation to relationships.

In reality, all four behavioral models exist within each of us, but they manifest differently depending on the area of life. However, there is always a baseline dynamic in which a person feels most natural and at ease.

Shifting away from this baseline role usually happens for two reasons:

Adaptation: The need to suit the situation—for example, stepping up as a Controller when leadership is required and no one else is taking charge.
Stress and Conflict: Trying to act "as one should" rather than "as is natural," which usually stems from a rejection of one's baseline dynamic.

Departing from one’s natural model can be either constructive or destructive:

It is healthy when done consciously as part of personal growth (e.g., a Controller learning to loosen their grip).
It is destructive when driven by internal conflict and self-denial, leading to stress and a feeling of inauthenticity.

A person who accepts themselves can flexibly switch strategies without acting "against their nature."

Attraction. A Male Perspective and Socionics

Source: S. Ionkin