Controllers + Provocateurs

For the Decisive types, relationships are built on the dynamic interplay of power, will, and intense experiences.

The Provocateur needs a strong partner who won't get flustered and can confidently hold their ground. The Controller likes a challenge, provided they perceive it as a game and not sabotage. If the Controller accepts the provocation as natural dynamics rather than an "undermining of authority," the interaction becomes very passionate and high-energy.

If the Controller is used to stability and predictability, while the Provocateur intentionally "blows up" the situation, a conflict may begin. The Provocateur sometimes tests the limits of what is permissible, and if the Controller doesn't understand this as part of the game, they may perceive it as a violation of boundaries.

The Controller's Strategy (Impose and Take)

The core of the Controller's program is initiative and expansion; their strategy is conquest and domination. They don't ask for permission: they instinctively know how and where to touch a partner and typically initiate intimacy, both physical and emotional.

A Controller's "program" is often based on clear visual parameters. They usually know the exact "type" that attracts them (height, weight, eye color). A person might be rejected for being too short, too tall, too thin, or too heavy.

Externally, a partner should appear decisive, quick-to-react, and firm. They also tend to prefer expressive people with somewhat provocative or "feisty" behavior.

The male Controller is often fastidious and discerning. He seeks a partner with a magical, "intoxicating" energy and, ideally, an impeccable reputation ("untouchedness" is highly valued).

They are aroused by a partner's willingness to yield and play by their rules, as well as by a passionate, reciprocal response. Decisive Sensors act to test their partner, mobilize them, or intensify the tension.

The Provocateur's Strategy (Tease and Surrender)

The essence of the Provocateur's program is the provocation of tension. During courtship, they employ alluring signals—glances, hints, laughter—but rarely initiate intimacy. Their goal is to tease the Controller to the point that they "pounce" of their own accord.

They crave strong, palpable touches that allow them to physically feel their partner's power.

They are aroused by strength, persistence, and directness. They enjoy being desired and hearing it expressed in explicit, even crude, terms ("I love your hands, your smell, I want you..."). Such words have a hypnotic effect on Provocateurs.

Sexual Interaction

For them, sex is a way to increase status and test boundaries and power. It is a way to gauge how much they are desired and to understand the nature of that desire.

• Focus: On external attributes (Se): quantity, intensity, and the fact of possession. Key questions: "Did you get a release? Were you able to relax?"

• Dynamics: A tendency toward fast, intense sex. It is a means of energy discharge and self-affirmation. Control and self-possession play a key role: pleasure grows from the realization of power ("I am doing this with you" or "I allow you to do this with me").

• Message: "I am ready to give my all, to lay my cards on the table to have you." Regular sex is a sign that all energy is being devoted to the partner, and a reminder: "You are mine, and I can do whatever I want with you."